Is there a difference between couples that met recently and those in Huston’s study?Currently I co-run a longitudinal study of marriage and family development, started in 2008 and ongoing, and the answers couples gave me about their engagement ranged from several months to several years.You might even be filling your thoughts with anxiety and frustration about the future of your relationship.The issue of how long to wait for the ring might be a decision point for you.Most say living together prior to getting engaged has less promising outcomes, but this might not reflect changing cultural acceptance.If not, are you ready or willing to take a stand for what you want?
Research is mixed as to whether couples who live together prior to marriage are as satisfied as those that waited until after marriage.
If you are focused on the subject, are you missing issues sitting just on the periphery? On one hand, if either of you are still in college or graduate school and not financially stable it might not be a good idea.
But a 30-something guy in a multi-year relationship with a steady job doesn’t have that same excuse. Maybe he really is just saving up his pennies and has a plan in place.
Read this question as- are you strong enough to leave?
On one hand creating an ultimatum for your partner rarely motivates romance.And pressing someone for marriage might be brushing over the issues that keep him from proposing in the first place.