When the cameras stopped flashing, however, a husband and wife were left to deal with an alleged violation of marriage and above all, busted trust. Spitzer has referred publicly to the alleged infidelity as a "private matter," but the experience is rooted in human behavior and family sociology.That means social scientists can to some extent get into the minds of the parties involved.
When a philandering husband is trying to win his wife back after cheating on her, what better way than to finally open up to her about the reasons for his unfaithfulness. It did not happen because she did not give him enough sex, or that she didn’t go to the gym, or wasn’t emotionally available. Every “successful” man is inwardly broken in some way. But then why aren’t they addicted to sex with their wives? But from understanding the cause we can create a solution.If not, why would they spend their lives seeking a place in the public’s heart? Men who learn to talk to their wives about their deepest fears become more immune to an affair. Rather, it was because he falsely thought that someone other than his wife could make him feel good about himself.They are conducted over the phone and are never consummated.
And even when they do get physical it is often very bad and unsatisfying sex.
And the more prized the woman is by other men, the greater the validation these men feel.